10 Things Sex is Meant to Be – Part I

10 Things Sex is Meant to Be – Part I

Notes Taken and Excerpts from Song of Solomon by Tommy Nelson

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There was a town where people were missing body parts because the body parts were being snatched off by crocodiles.  Nobody talked about the problem because it wasn’t polite to talk about the fact that crocodiles were taking off parts of the town members bodies. Yet people were walking around with a missing arm or a leg but no one could say anything because it wasn’t polite to discuss this issue.

Today, we have people who are losing their virginity before marriage and being hurt but no one is addressing it because it’s not polite.

If I were an atheist, I would:

-       Never Borrow excessively

-       Never be unforgiving

-       Never get into Premarital Sex

Getting into premarital sex is like unwrapping a Christmas gift early. Statistics indicate that 70% of couples who live together before marriage will divorce.

When Rebekah met Isaac in Genesis 24:62, she covered herself. She didn’t show her shape. Part of the mystery and beauty of marriage is having the privilege of unwrapping the gift of sex on the honeymoon night.

Girls – Stay pure. Don’t sell out. Hold out. The Song of Solomon shows us that this wife had a Rolls Royce she did not settle for a Pinto.

Men - The man should take the lead in keeping himself and the girl pure. One young woman who married said what many girls think: Thank you for keeping me pure.

10 Things  Sex is Meant to Be:

1. Romantic.  A person’s greatest sexual asset is the mind.  You will notice in the Song of Solomon from Chapter 4:1-5 that Solomon starts off his romantic evening with his new wife just by speaking to her.

-       v1 - He has probably removed her bridal veil and starts with his wife’s eyes (they are like dove’s eyes – they’re wide and beautiful)

-       v1 - Her hair is like the hair of goats (he has probably let down her hair and is caressing her hair and notices how lovely it is.

-       v2 - As he moves down her body, he sees her teeth. They’re clean and strong and present in her mouth(ladies – brush your teeth)

-       v3 - Her lips are red, her mouth is lovely and her cheeks are rosy.

-       v4 – Her neck is long and elegant

-       v5 – Her breasts are like two fawns – youthful and equally shaped

So far, all Solomon has done is talk to his new bride.  For women, who are slower to become physically aroused, it’s best for men to begin their lovemaking early in the day – taking out the trash, helping her with the dishes, helping the kids with their homework.

There’s a saying that men are like microwave ovens (always ready to have sex) and women are like crockpots (they take time to get ready).

Men use romance to get sex.  Women use sex to get romance.

If you want to engage your spouse, show kindness, gentleness, servanthood, appreciation, be loving and patient.  Spontaneity is seen as being tender.